Community guidelines

These rules are enforced, not decorative. Breaking the first two gets an account removed with no warning.

1. Adults only

Everyone on FlingList must be 18 or older. Any post that references, depicts or appears to involve a person under 18 is removed immediately and reported to the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children as required by law. There is no appeal.

2. Nothing commercial

FlingList is for people arranging to meet each other. It is not a marketplace. Do not post rates, prices, donations, roses, tributes, allowances, or any other way of saying money changes hands. Do not advertise escorting or any paid service. Posts containing this language are rejected when you submit them.

3. No money between members

Never send money to someone you met here, for any reason. Anyone asking for money, gift cards, crypto or a deposit is running a scam. Report them.

4. Text only

There are no photo uploads. Do not post links to image hosts, and do not publish anyone's contact details, including your own. Posts containing a phone number or an email address are rejected automatically — replies already reach you through a relay address, so you never need to publish either, and contact details on a public board are visible to everyone who reads it, not just the person you wanted to hear from. Shortened or disguised links (bit.ly/…, “example dot com”) are rejected too; ordinary links are held for a moderator to look at.

5. Consent and respect

No harassment, hate speech, threats, or posting about someone without their consent. One reply per post; if someone does not answer, move on.

6. One account, real region

One account per person. Post in the city where you actually are. No duplicate posts across regions.

How we enforce this

Submissions are screened automatically before publication. Reported posts are reviewed by a person. Reports of a minor or of paid services hide the post at once, before review. Every moderation decision is logged with a timestamp.